Monday, October 1, 2012

Help! My Partner Has PTSD: Seven Strategies for Coping as a Couple


If you are partnered with someone who is struggling with PTSD or you both have PTSD, you know your life together is challenged in some very profound ways. Fights can be explosive, resulting in fireworks or endless stony silences. Misunderstandings can abound. The non-PTSD partner may start to develop secondary or vicarious trauma just being exposed to the intense PTSD in their loved one. Life can start to feel very unpredictable, like threading one’s way through a minefield. It can be easy to start walking on eggshells or conversely getting fed up and moving away from each other. Love and connection are harder to feel. PTSD challenges couples like nothing else. Waiting it out doesn’t work and neither do threats or force. What to do?

1) Educate yourself. PTSD is a whole body process that affects every aspect of the human being. It has predictable stages (see my book, The Trauma Tool Kit) and effects on the person and the partnership. You would educate yourself if your partner had a major medical illness, right? This is no different. Forewarned is forearmed, as the saying goes.

2) Set some clear boundaries around behavior in the relationship. Just because someone is suffering does not give them the right to be abusive. The anger/fear response is hardwired and amped up in full-blown PTSD. Often people with PTSD dissociate when they are angry and don’t even realize what they are doing. Sit down with your partner, ahead of time, and set rules for what is tolerable and allowed in the relationship and what is not. These can change over time depending on where each of you and your life circumstance. For instance, shouting might be OK if it is just the two of you, but if you have a child in the next room, shouting can become off-limits behavior. Violence or abusive behavior is never to be tolerated under any circumstances.

3) Learn to take time-outs, or, as we call them around here, amygdala resets. Your amygdala is the part of your brain that is the crisis response center. When it goes on red alert it highjacks the brain to deal with threats, whether real or perceived. With the amygdala in the red zone, people are very close to being out of control or they are out of control. Taking 20 minutes, the average reset time, to reboot the brain for both parties, will lend itself to a more peaceful and safe outcome. Either partner should be able to call time-out at any time. Be sure to make it a time out not an end to the discussion. Always come back together to resolve the issue at hand. If it is just too explosive get into couple’s therapy. Which reminds me…

4) Get into couple’s therapy! More research is showing that couple’s treatment can be very helpful in coping with PTSD. Individual therapy is great, but couple’s issues are complex and require their own special interventions. Not all therapists like to do or can do couples’ work well. Look for someone with previous education and training or with a degree in family work, who also is knowledgeable about trauma. Even a few sessions can make a tremendous difference. If you are worried about money (and who isn’t these days) know that there are many organizations that provide these services for low and no cost. If you are a veteran or married to one, you may be even more eligible. If money is still on your mind, remind yourself of how expensive divorces are, as long as you both shall live.

5) Study triggers together. Big rages and emotional swings are almost always brought on by triggers to PTSD. A trigger can be anything at all. I worked with a couple whose partner was an Iraq war veteran. He became severely triggered one afternoon by three events happening in close succession: he saw someone in the parking lot of the restaurant with camouflage clothing; he got a freeze headache, and he got closed in when more people joined his table. The clothing and feeling of being trapped are obvious triggers, the freeze headaches not so much. But it turned out he’d had a number of them in the desert, and it had become a trigger. The more triggers you figure out together, in the calm times, the easier it becomes to avoid setting the PTSD partner off, or resolving it more quickly if you do. This is an empowering step that often brings couples closer together. In this case, the couple avoided, what would have been in the past an angry meltdown on his part. His partner then could respond with concern and compassion.

6) Make healing PTSD a joint task in your relationship. Strategize together. Discuss medical options. Open up lines of trust and communication. Often a spouse or partner is the only person to tell one’s story to with complete safety and trust. Don’t avoid the issues just because your partner wants to. Avoidance is part of the disease of PTSD. Don’t collude with it.

7) Join together in mental and physical fitness. Develop couple’s routines around calming down the mind and body on a daily basis. This could be through prayer, meditation, tai chi, yoga, or long walks. The evidence is pouring in daily about the beneficial effects of calming techniques on PTSD. You will both be better for it!

60 comments:

  1. I am a survivor of sexual, emotional and physical abuse as a child and in a 14 year marriage. I am dealing with PTSD and thank you for your ideas and support. My present husband understands, but your ideas are very helpful. I find creating space from my family of origin is also helpful. They have abusive communication patterns and I have been the labeled scapegoat, especially by a sister that never has come out of the denial of our childhood or her marriage. I am learning healthy boundaries and how to use yoga and eating well to stay energized and centered and aware of triggers.
    Lia

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  2. I am the partner of a husband who suffered horrendous abuse in childhood. We have been married for 18 years and have 2 wonderful children. It has taken years of unravelling to understand the PTSD trauma related symptoms he suffers from and the many triggers he has and their origins. I would say we still have a long way to go. A year ago he took the step of accepting hospitalisation along with alot of medication including anti-psychotics. This has since been the worst year of our marriage by far for me . My understanding of the effects of trauma and PTSD includes intense numbing and avoidance which were apparent for many years but we never understood what was going on. The medication seemed to just achieve the numbing and avoidance chemically and I believe has done great harm to my husband, our marriage, and our family. I really am shocked to realise how little psychiatrists understand Trauma and PTSD. I would love to know if anyone else has had any similar experiences

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    1. My husband was also in the same situation. I found Manor Hall Centre for Trauma in Scotland. Out lives have changed forever. Good Luck

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    2. Hello,
      My husband and I both went through childhood trauma. He had horrible abusive parents, incredibly bad parents, he is not like them and suffered more because he rebelled from what seems like birth, but as a child that only means more punishment not escape. I had absent and very young parents, too busy earning a living, divorcing, learning to be adults, overcoming their own childhoods to see all the abuse that "family and friends" were doing to their daughters, so I grew up with love but not a single safe place. He grew up safe from strangers/family in one sense but his parents were just so awful and did not love him. Since we've been married and stress of accidents, money, school, family, well PTSD was triggered for each of us suddenly and in close times that it overwhelmed us and the doctors we began seeing. They gave him meds that have changed him radically he was very absent heart and body from me, while I really need closeness to feel safe. We used to be so close, so very close that he is the only person I really trust. But then he became abusive and full of rage that would blow up at me, and yes it is because I tried to help him in ways that did not help us, I tried to help my parents a lot, they are like children actually in many ways. Nonetheless I do know first hand what you mean about the medication making our husbands chemically numb and their avoidance heightened. My husband felt he did not love and told me as much. You can understand the destruction we have had in our lives when he disconnected and left me alone to deal with everything. We are coming around now. He is not taking the SSRI's and or the antipsychotics, mostly medication to help his anxiety and concentration. He is now working very hard to connect with me and be his best self. Keep trying and keep protesting, pain is not ok, it is a sign we need to ask for help. I hope my story helps you. Yours helped me.

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    3. My husband comes from an abusive family and I'm only now starting to realize the full extent of his trauma. I blame myself for not having been more help from the start, but he always came across as being so sure of himself and the work he has done on his own, that I did not have the confidence to question it. We have been together many years and got married a few months ago. Since then problems have rapidly escalated and violent outbursts are becoming more and more frequent. I know he needs help but I do not know where to turn. I don't believe in medication and your post supports everything I thought already. But I know it would take a very good therapist to reach him and I don't know how to find the right one. I don't know if I can or if I do and it doesnt work out, will he just blame me for setting him up with a crock? Can I help him myself or am I just creating a co-dependent relationship where I will ultimately just end up making things even worse?

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    4. I am new to a partner with pts, 2 years, whereby my partner was involved in a traumatic mine accident killing 2....1 his mate. I dont know what to do or say any more. He won't get help. He drinks. I know he loves me and needs me. But how do I cope with his rapid mood swings that are abusive. Strange things are happening. I asked him was he ready to be served his dinner...yes...i am plating up. He complains constantly the tv is playing up, so I come out to fix it. Suddenly he is gone. I looked everywhere. He said I ignored the 3x he asked for his dinner. My daughter was there not hearing him say a word either. Then suddenly he turns on me adamantly believing I was on the phone to a man. He was angry. I grabbed my phone to prove my innocence trying to make him see he was behaving irrationally. He picks on me saying he is ashamed to bring anyone to our home, it's a mess....it is not. I steralised the carpets, vacuum everyday, cook him meals he says I never made for him. Pick pick pick. I can't stop him. Sometimes I dont know whether to be afraid or not. Sometimes I wonder, is it his own loss of control with pts that then makes him control me.

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  3. I am the spouse of a veteran who's lived with PTSD for all of our 20-year marriage. I always thought my happy-go-lucky influence was 'fixing' him. He said so. He says I gave him a reason to live.
    We knew that I managed life for him - filtered it into a manageable state so he could respond. That included our kids: if they got a bad grade, they tell me first and I tell him. Or if they misbehaved or something, I took care of it. Road trips?
    Major undertaking - too much he can't control. Walk the dogs on our dead-end country dirt road? He projects aggression so nothing will hurt us. Everywhere - even the grocery store, restaurants and parties. He always carries a gun. When I remark on it, he justifies it: 'See, nothing bad has ever happened to us, right? It's working.'
    It has taken years for enough little thoughts and realizations to stick together into one big one: that this man I pledged my life to has PTSD and that I can't take it any more. That his own childhood abuse, his 'boundaries' that he sets (as in, the learned behaviors he has and the rules he sets are what he believe allows him to come home safely each night from his current law enforcement profession), his anger and all of the hallmarks of PTSD he has. Full-blown. A therapist told me that our kids have suffered abuse. His therapist told him his anger and behavior are abuse.
    His therapist: he's seen her once and already believes she has fixed him. He hasn't even told her the traumatic event yet! but he's been on his best behavior for the past two weeks. Dare I hope he's cured?
    Even so, I'm done. I hope that he finds peace.
    With all that said, I am so scared to leave. I am the only thing holding his sanity together. He knows it. I know it. He's had 20 years to build this 'unit,' this enclave we live in, and I don't know if I'm strong enough to leave. But all I see is freedom on the other side of this enormous, protective wall he's built. That I allowed him to build. The worst part? To nearly everyone else in this world, he appears to be great. I feel like I have no support. And because he's never hit us I'm told that it really can't be all that bad. Yeah he's never hit us - he never had to. Or he redirects physical aggression - he'll lean in and at the last second turn to the side to launch something, or slam a door.
    My kids are showing physical effects from the stress. My boys have learned these behaviors as normal.
    I'm done. I have to be. I have to find the strength to be. I don['t know how to do this.

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    1. Strength isn't what you need to feel to moveon its in the values you posess. You can leave knowing you are a taking a great deal of knowledge with you that he does not want to look at, as well as your kids and you have more than you need to create a better life.
      I am 26 and have learnt my greatest accomplishment is knowing I am enough. Always.

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    2. I am going through the same thing but I have two little girls. I now have secondary ptsd and wonder if my oldest might as well. Any advice?

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    3. i am living with a man who has PTSD and I am a man who has PTSD from childhood sexual abuse. the anxiety is horrendous now after a year and half. I feel very depressed most of the time...I cannot be his therapist...we seem unable to communicate...I tend to need quiet alone time to recharge...he just constantly wants to be with me..all the time....I have tried to encourage him to get out more on his own...without defining himself with me...giving up....feeling very trapped and hopeless.

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  4. Please don't give up in your journey of healing. Healing is always possible. I would recommend you read The Trauma Tool Kit: Healing PTSD From the Inside Out which I wrote for people who were feeling helpless and alone with their suffering. Then seek out the best trauma therapist you can. More information is available on my website www.suepeasebanitt.com.

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  5. What can I do to help if my PTSD husband is now incrediby (possibly suicidal??) depressed? He wont see anyone (parents used to force him to therapy and treatment) and refuses to participate in anything relaxing or family-based. Except the occasional family dinner at my parents, and we have to leave asap when we're done eating. I dont want to leave, I believe that if he would get/accept help we can finally work through all of this. He has made some progress (sobriety). How do I get him out of his head so we can be a family? He has been very destructive to our home and I don't want our children seeing this behavior as normal. In order to prevent his blow-ups, I have to refrain from ANY conflict or opposing opinion because theres no telling when he'll decide to put a hole in the wall. I am not who I used to be. I dont know what to do.

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    1. Would love to hear an answer to this as your Situation sounds very familiar to me.
      We don't show up as a family, he goes places rather alone than with me and our son so I always feel as if we're not important to him.
      Having an opposing opinion is pretty much impossible or I am stupid and what not. When we once had a fight he even told me his car was more important to him than me... the next day he says 'you know I love you but you gotta chill...' ... well it's not always easy to stay calm...
      I constantly have to walk on eggshells to not set him off but I can't just say YES to everything...

      I love him so much and I also think that if he would accept help and work on himself our relationship would be so much better. But for now 99% of our fights or his bad mood are my fault, even though I'm not really doing anything wrong.


      I wish I knew how to fix this...

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    2. You've described my life with my husband who is a veteran. We too go places (if he goes at all) separately. I am treated like an ignorant child if I disagree or don't jump on his bandwagon when he rants, but if I say nothing he growls that I'm unresponsive and difficult. Everything is my fault. I know I play my part in the problems, but I too easily accept the responsibility and then feel the need to insulate him more. I keep my feelings hidden to try to avoid setting him off.

      I try to keep his exposure to triggers at a minimum, but his explosions have become more frequent. He's having more episodes where he doesn't even remember what he did or said. He throws things, screams, and talks about killing others or himself. I'm hiding guns more often lately. He expresses a great deal of guilt over the choices he had to make to come home alive.

      He was forced (an intervention of sorts about 4 years ago) to go to counseling at the VA, but still claims he doesn't need help. I also went to a VA counselor, but it wasn't nearly long enough.

      My husband terrifies me and frustrates me. I've read and read about PTSD, but after 22 years of this with no improvement, I am exhausted. I have raised 2 kids and feel like I have another kid instead of a husband. Our friends think he's a fun guy and a doting husband. They have no idea about the roller coaster ride our kids and I have been on over the years. I'm labeled as critical and cold because of what he tells his friends. Don't get me wrong, he is a great guy that does a lot of nice things for people; he's just not willing to get help for the PTSD. He sees it as a weakness better left hidden at home. I feel isolated and judged because no one understands. Above all, I feel guilty for my lack of empathy at times.

      Because I understand the struggle, I've started doing research to start a nonprofit that will help not just those plagued by PTSD, but also their families. I don't want to feel alone anymore and I know there are many others out there in similar situations.

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    3. Thank you for sharing, I live in a newer, similar environment and also feel so alone and isolated. (Second blended marriage of 8 long years). Does anyone know of an online support group for wives of PTSD spouse besides the VA?

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    4. Thank you for sharing, I live in a newer, similar environment and also feel so alone and isolated. (Second blended marriage of 8 long years). Does anyone know of an online support group for wives of PTSD spouse besides the VA?

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    5. Wow. No I dont know but I need help to. Not coping either. The paranoia is hard. I am isolated, no family, living on a cattle station in Australia. No telephone only satellite internet presently. I have no where to run. To have a chat line would be great. I am thinking due to paranoia my partner may have schizophrenia. That scares me. He believes the paranoia. One thing I have realised is in order for them to feel control, they need to control us. I am breaking with the OCD effect, belittling, etc almost like the battered wives syndrome now. Yes sir no sir 3 bags full....the egg shells. The paranoia...how safe am I? I am scared when that switch flips...tonight he accused me of having a man here...and or on the phone. Quote.. .I can hear a man's voice. I get my mobile to prove it...but he won't look. Then he doesn't remember. Then I am accused of having a brain explosion because I defend myself. Reverse the situation....its all my fault. Great..help out there for them....but what of us when they abuse. I am lacking empathy to now....I am sick of being a pts excuse.

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  6. I suffer PTSD from a past abusive relationship and my trigger is my loved ones drinking heavily. I'm currently in a relationship and my partner and her family don't see a problem with drinking. They drink most days and I can't cope with it. Do you suggest I walk away from this situation?

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    1. i believe that a healthy relationship encourages growth without requiring coping mechanisms and inducing stress. It may be the disrespectful behaviors that correspond with the drinking in which case yes walk away and don't look back. You are worthy of being loved completely.

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  7. My girlfriend suffers from PTSD from the past, she was abandoned, betrayed by her mother and then latter trafficked where she suffered some physical abuse.
    We have been trying to work on things together but today it came out in the open that its not working and she needed to deal with this on her own. I understand her decision and I don't want and will not cut her off, but I am giving her space to figure things out.

    What can I do to be more supportive, to help her get more comfortable in her own skin, and not letting our relationship diminish.

    Please give me advice.

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    1. Hello, You can book an appointment through my website: www.suepeasebanitt.com.

      Best to you.

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    2. Hello, this may be too late, but please dont leave her alone. If she went through all that and still decided to trust you, she needs you more than anyone can explain. I went through a lot and I know that I am a better person because my husband decided to marry me and hold on. I am sure it is not working between the two of you without a lot of help, but she must be so helpless and such a strong person to still go out on a hope to find salvation and protection to get together with you. She has to be worth sticking it out for I am guessing, because I know I am. I have PTSD and I am an amazing wife today, I hope you can be the light in her life, think about it, light is not something that we can touvh or something that depends on us to exist, there is light that illuminates our lives if we look to it, if we allow that light to shine on our path, the light might blind you and make thinngs impossible to see or you may be unable to see the light or use it, but it can be there and it can be healing to know it will continue to be there. Be her light while she works on herself, set boundaries, help her, be there however you can without failing or falling into despair and suffering which surely you must also feel.

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  8. Hi all, Please note that this page is no longer active. If you want to contact me you can do so through my website and new blog at www.suepeasebanitt.com or through my Facebook page /TheTraumaToolKit.

    Blessings, Sue PB

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  9. Hello,
    Thank you so much for writing this article. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and I'm still trying to figure out what I can do to help him cope with his PTSD.
    He was severely abused as a child by his mother and has dealt with the effects for years. He is 30 years old and ran away from his mother to get away from the abuse. We have two kids together and the older the kids get, the more they become triggers for his PTSD.
    This article has helped me quite a bit in I'm seeing what I can do to help him cope with everything, so thank you.

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  10. Hello this information is help, I have been seeing someone who has PTSD and has recently made it clear she has had recent episodes of flash backs and has pulled away not wanting to be touched told she is beautiful or want help she just wants to be in that dark place, she said she loves me but has also been talking to someone from her past and has not be speaking to me and some of those conversations have crossed the line of a friend, learned it is her past love of her life.. Is this a way of couping or her wanting out of what we had any advise?

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    1. Many PTSD patients become Master Manipulators....what do you think?

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  12. Glad I found this thread, was interesting to hear everyone's stories. My partner of 7 years was diagnosed with PTSD last year from childhood sexual abuse after he suffered a severe mental breakdown. During this breakdown he left me and told me he no longer loved me, which you can imagine tore me apart.Once he realised he was suffering a mental breakdown and got the help he needed he begged for me back. It was a hard decision for me, we have 4 beautiful children and I knew he was very ill but he had hurt me so badly. His doctor was amazing and aswell as getting him the medication he needed she also 'counselled' us through the worst times. 8 months down the line and we are in a different place altogether. A month ago he stopped taking all medication, against his doctors wishes, and since then I have been walking on eggshells. He drinks too much, is rarely at home and 'explodes' at least once a week and then needs at least 24 hours of rest following this 'crisis' where he can sleep for long periods or struggle to get out of bed. I've tried talking to him about it but he stands by that he's 'better' without medication and that it makes him 'fuzzy'. I try to be understanding but I can't make him see that he is very ill. I'm getting to the point where I could just up and leave but I worry that I'm not standing by him and I don't want our family to be torn apart again! I feel at a loss of what to do, when he's calm and settled he can see my point and promises to do something about it but then an episode will happen and it's back to square one. I love him very much and try very hard but I'm so unhappy. Any suggestions/advice???

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    1. You need to love your children more than your husband and your job is to protect them. Then you and then help your husband but from a safe place. Hes self medicating with booze and really wants to die. Dont allow him to take you and your 4 children down that rabbit hole.

      Get safe and stable and help from a secure and protected place. Hope this helps. Ev i wrote on here as Aug 7th.

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  13. There comes a tims that one as a Mother has to protect the children. They deserve to grow up joyful, happy and playfull and you cant do that in a toxic home. You also deserve a life. What Ive learned from 17 year marriage and 28 yrs apart to be back helping...is I need to help me first..then I have the compassion to help him. You need a safe place you can retreat to where you can sleep and think and have friends. I have a camping trailer...as nature helps Then step back into the dysfuntion with a clear and compassionate head. Im helping my husband but its 5 steps ahead and 3 back...

    His brain cut off bloid to that part that has compassion and empathy...and grew around it to protect itself. It wont grow back! Its missing and hes smart enough to know it and hes angry, frustrated and depressed. He cant feel joy. Drugs reduce the anger but they feel foggy...alcohol changes their state but then harms them with anger, rages and depression. Their stuck in this circle or I call it an electrical storm in their head. Its not fixable unless science shows us how to grow a new brain. So as a Mother our job is to first protect oor children. Then our selves and then with a lot of compassion help them live with their brain injury. Its a tough job but has purpose. Their human and deserve love and support...but dont misjudge...your walking a thin line and be careful. Know when to stay and when to leave and when to ask for help.

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  14. There comes a time that one as a Mother has to protect the children. They deserve to grow up joyful, happy and playfull and you cant do that in a toxic home. You also deserve a life. What Ive learned from 17 year marriage and 28 yrs apart from my PTSD to be back helping...is I need to help me first..then I have the compassion to help him. You see at the time I didnt know his PTSD was what he was experiencing as an RCMP officer and that the stress broke our marriage. I learned it years later why I walked on egg shells and catered to his dysfuntion and our son suffered because I didnt recognize the dysfunction and allowed it to dominate our life. I failed to protect my young son and me. It took us 28 years away to heal. Now I have a better education on PTSD and more compassion so have returned to help him. He cant hold relations. His expectation and behaviours are too strong.

    Hes the father of my son, grandfather to 2 beautiful teens and I want to build a bridge...but you need a safe place and a plan with basic expectations.

    First I set up a place I can retreat to where you can sleep and think and have friends. I have a camping trailer...as nature helps Then step back into the dysfuntion with a clear and compassionate head. Im helping my husband but its 5 steps ahead and 3 back...

    His brain cut off blood to that part that has compassion and empathy...and grew around it to protect itself. The brain is magnificent and knowd how to protect itself. It wont grow back! Its missing and hes smart enough to know it and hes angry, frustrated and depressed. His assessment is real. He cant feel joy. Drugs reduce the anger but they feel foggy...alcohol changes their state but then harms them with anger, rages and depression. Their stuck in this circle or I call it an electrical storm in their head. Its not fixable unless science shows us how to grow a new brain.

    So as a Mother our job is to first protect our children...which I fully didnt and have apologized for. Then our selves and then with a lot of compassion help them live with their brain injury. Its a tough job but has purpose. Their human and deserve love and support...but dont misjudge...your walking a thin line and be careful.
    Know when to stay and when to leave and when to ask for help.

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  15. It’s no secret that a man’s ego has a powerful pull on him.

    In fact this hardwired need to impress and to WIN is so deeply embedded into the male mind...

    That nearly everything a man truly desires is based around this biological “drive” to prove, succeed and to win.

    It’s why so many men become workaholics, gym junkies or become obsessed with their hobbies.

    But what most women don’t know...

    ...is how deeply this “drive” is connected to his love, desire, and attraction for the woman in his life.

    And I’m about to show you how you can “tap into” a man’s ege to refocus that same drive and gut level obsession...

    ...on pleasing you, romancing you, and proving his love for you like you’re his sole purpose in life.

    Here’s how: ==> The “Go Ahead” Signal That Makes Him Obsessed With Winning Your Love

    Mr Gix

    P.S. When you tap into a man’s ego this way, you can cause him to literally become obsessed with proving his love for you. So please don’t use this on a man unless you are ready for something serious.

    Thanks again.

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  16. I never believed in Love Spells or Magics until i met this special spell caster when i went to Africa to Execute some business. He is really powerful. My husband divorce me with no reason for almost 4 years and i tried all i could to have him back cos i really love him so much but all my effort did not work out, we met at our early age at the college and we both have feelings for each other and we got married happily for 5 years with no kid and he woke up one morning and he told me he’s going on a divorce, i thought it was a joke and when he came back from work he tender to me a divorce letter and he packed all his belonging from my house and left. i ran mad and i tried all i could to have him back but all did not work out. I was lonely for almost 4 year, So when i told the spell caster what happened he said he will help me and he asked for his full name and his picture. I gave him that. At first i was skeptical but i gave it a try cos i have tried so many spell casters and there is no solution, so when he finished with the readings, he got back to me that he’s with a woman and that woman is the reason why he left me, The spell caster said he will help me with a spell that will surely bring him back, but i never believe all this he told me i will see a positive result within 3 days. 3 days later, he called me himself and came to me apologizing and he told me he will come back to me. I can't believe this, it was like a dream cos i never believe this will work out after trying many spell casters and there is no solution. The spell caster is so powerful and after that he helped me with a pregnancy spell and i got pregnant a month later, we are now happy been together again and with lovely kid. This spell caster has really changed my life and i will forever thankful to him, he has helped many of my friends too with similar problem too and they are happy and thankful to him. This man is indeed the most powerful spell caster i have ever experienced in life. Am Posting this to the Forum in case there is anyone who has similar problem and still looking for a way out.. you can reach him here: drosebuluspellhome@gmail.com CONTACT THIS POWERFUL SPELL CASTER TODAY VIA EMAIL: drosebuluspellhome@gmail.com or on +2348083221034

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  17. desperately I mean his severe PTSD he got when he got beat up by police and ever since then it's been nothing but a nightmare because every year near the end of the year around the time it happened here acts what happened,treats me me with such cruelty and he has recurring nightmares recurring thoughts and everything and I end up getting treated like absolute crap it takes everything out on me takes his guilt out on me breaks up with me 7 times a year okay he told me constantly but I'm not going to give up what can I do to help him

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  18. desperately I mean his severe PTSD he got when he got beat up by police and ever since then it's been nothing but a nightmare because every year near the end of the year around the time it happened here acts what happened,treats me me with such cruelty and he has recurring nightmares recurring thoughts and everything and I end up getting treated like absolute crap it takes everything out on me takes his guilt out on me breaks up with me 7 times a year okay he told me constantly but I'm not going to give up what can I do to help him

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  20. I never believed in Love Spells or Magics until i met this special spell caster when i went to Africa to Execute some business. He is really powerful. My husband divorce me with no reason for almost 4 years and i tried all i could to have him back cos i really love him so much but all my effort did not work out, we met at our early age at the college and we both have feelings for each other and we got married happily for 5 years with no kid and he woke up one morning and he told me he’s going on a divorce, i thought it was a joke and when he came back from work he tender to me a divorce letter and he packed all his belonging from my house and left. i ran mad and i tried all i could to have him back but all did not work out. I was lonely for almost 4 year, So when i told the spell caster what happened he said he will help me and he asked for his full name and his picture. I gave him that. At first i was skeptical but i gave it a try cos i have tried so many spell casters and there is no solution, so when he finished with the readings, he got back to me that he’s with a woman and that woman is the reason why he left me, The spell caster said he will help me with a spell that will surely bring him back, but i never believe all this he told me i will see a positive result within 3 days. 3 days later, he called me himself and came to me apologizing and he told me he will come back to me. I can't believe this, it was like a dream cos i never believe this will work out after trying many spell casters and there is no solution. The spell caster is so powerful and after that he helped me with a pregnancy spell and i got pregnant a month later, we are now happy been together again and with lovely kid. This spell caster has really changed my life and i will forever thankful to him, he has helped many of my friends too with similar problem too and they are happy and thankful to him. This man is indeed the most powerful spell caster i have ever experienced in life. Am Posting this to the Forum in case there is anyone who has similar problem and still looking for a way out.. you can reach him here: drosebuluspellhome@gmail.com CONTACT THIS POWERFUL SPELL CASTER TODAY VIA EMAIL: drosebuluspellhome@gmail.com or on +2348083221034

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  23. Hello- I am engaged to a wonderful man but he suffers from PTSD from a childhood truama he was stabbed 13 times when he was in his early teenage years. I didn’t see the PTSD at first everything seemed great. I’m not sure he knew he had PTSD. Now our relationship is suffering and your article has helped. Our communication is horrible and he is very quick to anger and explosive reactions. I want to help him and also find a medium for happiness. He tends to reflect his issues on me, trying to flip responsibility of the issue onto me or someone else, come up with the worst case scenario and then fully believe it will happen. Not to mention he fights with addiction. The stress of this relationship is so burying but I know that I love him ... I just want to help without triggering him. We need help quickly

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  27. These suggestions are nice...

    ...but they assume a willing partner. My wife has acknowledged her PTSD, but is extremely reluctant to therapy, and denies that PTSD is tre cause of her violent outbursts... rather I’m to blame. It’s crushing to try to love her day after day but never knowing what is going to set her off. The rules seem to be always changing.

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  30. I believe I'm the happiest woman on earth right now, my husband is back with me after he left me to marry another woman February 16th 2017 because she has more money i was so sad because i love him so much and i was so confuse i ran to different friends to help me talk to my husband but it didn't work out the more they talk to him the more he insult them to get out of his face, I don"t really know what to do, I was thinking hard i quit my job because i cried everyday even at work. So one day on Facebook i came across Evelyn talking about Dr. Miracle.. How he help her get her husband back and i saw lovely how Dr.Miracle help her get rid of fibroid. I think deeply how will he help me get my husband back i decided to email him through his contact they provided he responded immediately i feel brave to see his message, i complain to him he requested for my husband picture and i, so i send it immediately and follow his instructions and he cast the spell within 3 days my husband called me and came home with tears that the woman has another man i was so happy with the help of Dr. Miracle.For bring my husband back with me. I promise to tell the world about his powerful spell. "CONTACT Via Email: Miraclespellhome@yahoo.Com Or miraclespellhome@gmail.Com,,You Can Also Call Him Or Add Him On Whatsapp: +2348071398555 or view his website::http://miraclespellhomes.Webs.Com/

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  31. i want to testify to the general public how my relationship was restored back by the great power's of Dr UZOYA after 3 year of loneliness, my ex wife called me after my contact with Dr UZOYA caster spell that brought my ex wife back and start a good home, now we are happily married. All thanks to Dr UZOYA for his wonderful spiritual help.With this testimony right now i am the happiest man on earth and our love is now stronger than how it was even before. I will keep sharing this testimony all over the world. All thanks goes to Dr.UZOYA for the good work that he has done for me and people he has helped. Believe him and do all he ask you to do and never doubt him in any way.his email; driraborspellcaster@gmail.com his Mobil number is +13019098775

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  32. Effective powerful love spell to get your ex boyfriend/girlfriend back now! dr_mack@ yahoo. com is certainly the best spell caster online, and his result is 100% guarantee..

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  33. The spell cast by Dr_mack@yahoo.com made wonders, if you have search for a powerful spell caster to restore relationship and they have all failed you then i will advise you to run to Dr Mack, you will have your lover back.🤗❤🙏🙌

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  34. I am Mrs Unice from Australia, i want to share a testimony of my life to every one. i was married to my husband George Vega, i love him so much we have been married for the past 8 years now with two kids. when he went for a vacation to France he meant a lady called Mary, he told me that he is no longer interested in the marriage any more. i was so confuse and seeking for help, i don't know what to do until I met my friend miss pasha and told her about my problem. she told me not to worry about it that she had a similar problem before and introduce me to a man called Dr UZOYA love spell who cast a spell on his ex and bring him back to her after 2 days. Miss pasha ask me to contact Dr UZOYA love spell for help. I contacted him to help me bring back my husband and he ask me not to worry about it that the gods of his four -fathers will fight for me. He told me by two days he will re-unite me and my husband together. After two day my husband called and told me he is coming back to sought out things with me, I was surprise when I saw him and he started crying for forgiveness. Right now I am the happiest woman on earth for what this great spell caster did for me and my husband, you can contact Dr UZOYA email; driraborspellcaster@gmail.com .He is the best spell caster who is very capable to help you his telephone number is +13019098775

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  35. What a miracle i never believe there is cure because my doctor tested me Herpes positive and she told me there is no cure, i’m very happy today that i’m having a free life without this sickness, i can remember some months ago when i was crying all through the night and day that i can’t get cured from this sickness, i found this herbal man email on internet when i was doing research on cure for Herpes i contacted him to found out if i can get help from this sickness, i was so surprise when he told me that he have the herbs cure to it and he sent me the herbal in less down 2-3 days i was so happy when i get someone giving me hope that he can cured me i took the herbal for just 2 weeks, when i went for test after taking the herbal i found out that i am cured i was so happy and surprise, i want to use this opportunity to inform you that there is cured to Herpes you can also contact him for his help as soon as possible so that you can get rid of this sickness once and for all you can reach him through this email: chiefdrlucky@gmail.com or whatsApp him on +2348132777335 You can also contact him on any sickness in this he all have the herbal cure to it


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  36. i am Michelle Bradley by name. Greetings to every one that is reading this testimony. I have been rejected by my husband after three(3) years of marriage just because another woman had a spell on him and he left me and the kid to suffer. one day when i was reading through the web, i saw a post on how this spell caster on this address astoriashrine@gmail.com, have help a woman to get back her husband and i gave him a reply to his address and he told me that a woman had a spell on my husband and he told me that he will help me and after 3 days that i will have my husband back. i believed him and today i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the power to bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my husband. Thanks for helping me Dr.Paul contact him on email: astoriashrine@gmail.com Dr Paul TEMPLE..or him on Whats-app+2349051441669

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  37. This is my testimony about the good work of Dr Paul who help me.... I'm Katherine from usa. And am sorry for putting this on net but i will have to by this world top spell caster that brought back my husband which left me out for past 3 years, i eventually met this man on a blog site posting by one of is client for help, i explained everything to him and he told me about a spell caster that he had heard about and he gave me an email address to write to the spell caster to tell him my problems. In just 2 days, my husband was back to me. I just want to say thank you to this truthful and sincere spell caster, sir all you told have come to pass and thank you sir. Please i want to tell everyone who is looking for any solution to problem, i advice you to kindly consult this spell caster, he is real,he is powerful and whatever the spell caster tell is what will happen, because all what the spell caster told me came to pass. You can kindly contact him on: his email address is astoriashrine@gmail.com or directly on whasapp +2349051441669

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  38. it is 3 years now since i and my ex husband reunited through the powerful love spell of Dr Henry. i once thought there was no more hope after getting divorced out of my 8 years marriage, but my view of this changed when my friend introduced me to voodoo spells and magics . I was opportune to get in contact with Dr. Henry, the man who returned my ex husband's love back to me in 24 hours after 5 years of separation. My life was in a deep mess before i experienced his life changing love spells which have still kept me happily married till now. You could also solve your marriage cases and get your ex's love back by consulting Dr. Henry on permanentspellcast@yahoo.com or permanentspellcast@gmail.com

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